Transform Your Home with a DIY Sex Room: A Guide to Building Your Fantasy Space
How to Build a Sex Room at Home
Elevate your DIY skills and intimacy by creating the ultimate home improvement project: a sex room! These dedicated spaces are designed to enhance intimacy, featuring unique items like sex swings and mirrored ceilings that go beyond the typical bedroom setup. While some sex rooms cater to bondage with whips, chains, and specialized furniture, others focus on a more sensual, spa-like atmosphere with soft lighting, comfortable pillows, and seductive accessories.
Inspired by the popular Netflix series, couples worldwide are exploring the idea of sex rooms. If you’re considering building your own fantasy or bondage room, these practical tips and suggestions will guide you through the process.
Choosing the Perfect Spot for Your Sex Room
Before you begin, you need to decide on the best location for your sex room. Attics and basements are ideal because their unfinished state provides a blank canvas for your wildest fantasies. These spaces, with their bare concrete floors and cinderblock walls, can create a raw, intense atmosphere perfect for a bondage room. However, keep in mind that these areas often lack proper lighting, electrical outlets, and climate control, which could make them uncomfortable in extreme weather.
If you prefer a more convenient option, consider using a spare bedroom. These rooms are typically finished and ready to use, needing just a new coat of paint and some furnishing. They offer ample lighting and easy access to electricity, making them practical and accessible year-round. However, they are more likely to be discovered by others, so consider your need for privacy.
When choosing a location, consider the size of the space. It needs to be large enough to accommodate your bondage gear and accessories while maintaining an intimate feel. Start by estimating the square footage based on the largest piece of furniture you need, usually a bed, and add extra space for items like sex swings or bondage furniture. Ensure there’s enough room to move around comfortably once the room is fully equipped.
A basic sex room with just a swing can be as small as 25 square feet, about the size of a large walk-in closet. Mid-size rooms with a smaller bed and a swing might require 80-100 square feet. Larger BDSM rooms with a king-sized bed, a swing, and multiple pieces of furniture can easily exceed 150 square feet. Avoid overcrowding to keep the room sexy and organized.
Discretion is also crucial. If your child’s old bedroom seems ideal, remember it could become problematic if they need to move back in. Avoid placing your sex room where neighbors might overhear, and be mindful of windows to maintain privacy.
Decorating Your Sexy Space
Your BDSM room should be an expression of your relationship and sexual fantasies, designed to set the mood and enhance your experience. Here are some decorating tips to help you create the perfect ambiance:
Color and Wallpaper: Start with a vibrant paint color. Many couples choose red, inspired by the infamous red room from Fifty Shades of Grey, but balance it with a complementary color to avoid overpowering the space. Avoid white, which symbolizes purity. Wallpaper with exotic or sensual patterns makes an excellent accent wall.
Lighting: Dimmable lighting is ideal, allowing you to adjust the mood as needed. Bright light can be intimidating, while softer lighting can create a romantic atmosphere. Color-changing smart bulbs offer even more options. If you prefer candles, ensure they are placed safely, or opt for battery-powered candles to avoid accidents.
Music: Integrate music with a simple Bluetooth speaker or a full sound system if you’re an audiophile. Music can enhance the atmosphere and make your sessions more enjoyable.
Accessories: Add extra-large, soft pillows for comfort and use as position aids. Mirrors on the wall or ceiling allow you to view the action from multiple angles. Naughty artwork, like classic nudes or sexy photos of you and your partner, can add a personal touch.
Storage: Proper storage keeps your sex toys and accessories organized and accessible. Use chests or dressers with drawers, or display beautiful glass sex toys on shelves. Hang hooks for whips, chains, paddles, and handcuffs for easy access during play.
Choosing Sex Furniture and Toys
Furnishing your sex room with the right toys and furniture is essential. Adam & Eve, featured in the Netflix series, offers a wide range of options:
Beds: Choose a smaller bed for intimacy with a sturdy frame to withstand vigorous activity. Bedposts are great for tying down restraints. Select a supportive mattress and soft, sensual sheets.
Sex Swings: Essential for any sex room, swings allow for unique positions and provide support for basic ones. The Fetish Fantasy Bondage Swing, used in the Netflix series, is a heavy-duty option with built-in restraints for extra thrills.
Wedges and Ramps: Enhance your sexual skills with wedges or ramps for better support and deeper penetration in various positions. Liberator products are known for their high quality and include washable covers and position guides.
Impact Toys: From ticklers for teasing to paddles and whips for more intense play, impact toys add excitement. The Scarlet Couture Spank Me Paddle offers dual sensations and includes bondage rope for added fun.
Restraints: Handcuffs, restraints, and ties are essential for bondage play. The Playful Furry Cuffs are versatile, beginner-friendly, and can be used with or without their faux fur covers.
Sex Machines: For serious pleasure, a sex machine like the Cowgirl Premium Sex Machine offers powerful vibrations and multiple attachments, controllable via smartphone.
Budgeting and DIY Options
Creating a sex room can be as budget-friendly or luxurious as you like. You can spend from $100 to $100,000, depending on your choices. Spread out your purchases over time or save money by building your own furniture. For those wanting professional help, consider hiring designers featured in the Netflix series.
Bondage Safety and Communication
Safety and communication are paramount in BDSM play. Discuss your plans and desires with your partner to ensure mutual understanding and safety. Follow installation instructions carefully for all equipment to prevent accidents. Open and honest communication during use is essential, especially when trying new things.
Adam & Eve’s sexpert Dr. Jenni Skyler emphasizes “safe, sane, consensual” play. Agree on a safe word system, such as the stoplight method (yellow for caution, red for stop, green for go), and consider non-verbal signals if using gags.
Most importantly, enjoy the process of creating and using your sex room. BDSM is a shared experience that should enhance your relationship and bring you closer together.